Surviving Lock Down
There will be many people who have struggled with mental
illness during this lockdown. Some may have managed to survive lockdown only to
become ill afterward.
In the beginning, my wife and I accepted the restrictions of
the pandemic and found a new closeness in our 53rd year of marriage.
April brought bright sunny days and we were able to work together on household
chores and in the garden. I felt quite optimistic and was as relaxed as I’ve
been for some time. I only ventured out for shopping and we both enjoyed a walk
down the field and a socially distant chat with other walkers. A simple daily
routine without any additional expectations or issues was good for me.
In the middle months, my wife hurt her back and was in
considerable pain. The first two doctors prescribed paracetamol but it was only
after three months when I called an ambulance, she was given a diagnosis based
on an X-ray. She had fractured her lumbar region in several places. This was a
difficult time for me and I would end each day feeling exhausted but there were
things in my life that helped me cope. Monday night I spent two hours talking
to other members of Andy‘s Man Club on the internet and this kept me grounded.
Wednesday for two hours was Shaun’s Group, Higher Self when again I could talk
to men and women experiencing mental health issues and gain strength from that.
Thursday evening was a quiz, again set up by Shaun for his friends and family,
and my wife and I enjoyed the challenge and banter that this involved. Friday
night I spent an hour on zoom learning new songs with the other members of my
choir. Sunday evening we had a family meeting on zoom incorporating a quick and
Art Club. Football fixtures were being completed and there was still some
reasonable television to watch. I was tired but still felt upbeat and I kept
myself busy. Netflix in the morning, shopping for groceries, and in the
afternoon a little DIY.
After five months I am finding life hard again. My wife is
now more mobile but still not able to drive or do many of the things she used
to do. Going out is hard for us because we continue to shield her, and when we
do go anywhere, there seem to be many people not wearing masks. AMC continues
as does Higher Self but during August there is no choir practice. My family
continues to zoom on a Sunday night but both daughters live in areas that are
in lockdown, so no visits. For the first time, I am beginning to feel isolated
and that the walls are closing in. Many people will feel like this as the days
shorten and the weather worsens and I am no exception. Many of those evening activities
that have helped me in the past have stopped as people have to go back to work. There
are no programmes on the television that I enjoy and distract me, so each day seems
longer. It will be a long time before my choir can meet again but my gym is now
open. I don’t know how safe it will be for me to re-join and I worry for my
wife but I know that I will have to change my lifestyle if I am to stop sliding
backward.
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