I can't tell you how I feel
I took my daughters to the planetarium in London many years
ago. We sat in amazement looking at our solar system as it was presented to us.
Then the story moved on to galaxies in the infinite universe. It left me
feeling strangely disturbed because I couldn’t grasp the enormity of it all. Today
I face a different challenge because now I am looking inwards into the vast
depths and complexities of the human mind. My mind. Just like the physicists
trying to make sense of the rules that determined our universe, so doctors are
attempting to make sense of the human mind, its frailties, and its vast
variations. Both tasks are equally daunting but I suspect that we understand
the universe better than how the brain functions. I have heard many men say
that they can’t confide in their wives even when their partner wants them to,
because they have no way of expressing how they feel and what is happening to
them. They are lost as to why they feel the way they do. They can’t explain
what they feel because they have little comprehension of what is overwhelming
them. Doctors and counsellors have theories and can help us understand some of
the superficial things that cause mental ill-health but so much is hidden from
them and ourselves. Bringing to the surface, what is hidden from our conscious
mind is the first step. Recognising the problem is the starting point but not a
cure. Most men walking through the doors of AMC are at a loss to understand
what is happening to them. They are bewildered and crushed by their illness.
They are dealing with the infinite universe of the mind that leaves them feeling
utterly bereft. Talking is not a cure but it is a beginning. Over the weeks, I
see men learning from each other and bringing their problems into an open arena,
a solid world. They learn how to cope from hour to hour, day to day, and week
to week. They take advice from those who are ahead of them on this journey and
they feel they are not alone. We cannot intellectualise the mysteries of the
mind but we can offer practical advice and brotherhood. We can keep people
afloat until they begin to feel better.
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