My illness will not define me.
At my worst depression, I couldn’t get out of bed. At my
worst with my anxiety, I didn’t want to speak to anyone or go anywhere. Like many
people my illness was controlling the way I lived. From the first time, I had a
panic attack I resolved that I was not going to let this illness defined me.
I went back to work and for the next 12 years successfully run a large
organisation, as my mental problems came and went. I am not unique in this,
because I have met many brave men who were holding down jobs and keeping going
despite their mental health problems. It is unfortunate that fear can prevent
people from living the life they long for and, although I understand that, I
had to be different. My philosophy has always been, ‘feel the fear and do it
anyway’. If you don’t try to conquer your fears, you will never know the joy of
new things. I am not saying this is easy but it is who I am. I refuse to be
bowed down by this affliction and will live my life in the best way I can. This
has allowed me to be high functioning but that doesn’t mean that my mind is not
in mental pain. I have moments when I feel exhausted and need to remove myself
from whatever I am doing. I have moments when I really don’t want to talk to
anyone and I have moments when even small tasks seem insurmountable. Despite
all this, I expect to live a normal life and enjoy all those moments that offer
great meaning to me. My illness will not define me.
I think fear needs to be conquered otherwise you won’t be able to reach for your goals
ReplyDeleteYes David, conquering fear is not the same as eliminating it. Only people who have experienced anxiety will understand the difference.
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