Blip or Going Backwards
No matter how well you feel, with mental health, there is
always the possibility of regressing. During the lockdown, I have had to face many
restrictions on my life. I have done this reasonably well and felt some
achievement in ‘not going under.’ I have helped my wife through some difficult
times and the experience has been exhausting. I now have a long list of good
things that will be happening in a month’s time. I will be able to swim again.
I will be able to go to Andy's Man Club again. I will see my family again. I
might be able to play golf again. You would think that this would make me happy
but a month is a long time to be waiting when you feel down or anxious. So
today my mental health has dipped and I am doing what I always do, thinking the
worst. I didn’t sleep well last night and for a week now I have been dogged by
the most debilitating headaches. I look back over the past two years and I know
that I am in a much better place now but there is still that niggling doubt
that I am going backward. There is no logic to this feeling, but nevertheless, it feels so real. I am catastrophizing like many people I know who find
themselves in this position. It’s hard to see the long term because anxiety is
all about the moment. You have to be able to see beyond that moment, and the
best way of doing that is to talk to someone who can offer common-sense
counsel. Today, it is raining and my wife is suffering from her covid
vaccine. So I am alone with my thoughts and have sat down to write this blog
until I can find someone to talk to. I am sure in a few days I will wonder what
all the fuss was about but for the moment I feel lost. I am not in a black hole
or despairing for my future but I know there are many people out there who
understand the pain I am feeling and would offer words of reassurance, not to
themselves, but to me.
Come on Dick, you are my dear friend and I understand your comments because I go through the very same episodes. It will pass and you are never actually alone in your sadness
ReplyDeleteOf course you are right David, and salvation lies in the recognition that even in the worst moments things will get better. The more you experience this the more certain you become but in that critical moment there is always self doubt.
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