Andy's Man Club

 

I first attended a group in Wakefield in 2017 and found the experience really helpful. AMC’s message is, ‘It’s OK to talk,’ and I’ve seen firsthand the power this message has. Men arrive looking like lost souls, unable to speak and in some cases, unable to come through the door. I felt a little apprehensive when I went to my first meeting, but I was full of hope that this group would help me feel less isolated. I became a regular of the group and on occasion acted as a facilitator. I continued through the covid lockdown talking to members of Wakefield AMC using the internet and eventually, when it was safe, I moved to help with a new group that was opening in Pontefract. We were AMC’s 50th group but since then the charity has snowballed. I finally went through the training and now help facilitate the Pontefract group. We are constantly fighting the toxic masculinity which pervades our society but all that attend quickly learn that talking and sharing is a massive help. It’s a useful tool for me and keeps me going even when times are difficult. We now go out to schools, businesses, and universities spreading the message that men need to talk about their problems and explaining how AMC works.  At Pontefract, I believe we have saved a number of young men from taking their lives and got them back to a worthwhile life. This approach may not be for everyone and isn’t a substitute for medical support but does help so many. I’m proud to be a part of such an organisation and to do my bit because everyone who walks through the door may be another life saved.  

 

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